My Infertility Story

Let me start by telling you up front that I am a man. You may ask yourself, “What does a man know about infertility and the heartbreak that comes every month with another negative pregnancy test?” Plenty!

I will also tell you that I AM a father, if that gives you any hope, but it wasn’t without my own heartbreak that I experience along with my wife. Yes, I will give you women credit and not say that my own experience is as painful or frustrating as yours since I will never know what it means to be a woman. Likewise, I will never know the satisfaction that comes, and hopefully will come to you some day soon, from carrying a child in your womb for nine months…feeding and living with that baby in a way that no man could possibly comprehend. But I will tell you that I have cried both tear of anger and frustration after losing a baby and also, like I said, months and months of trying to have a baby with my wife. The child that we lost was given a name and I look forward to seeing him someday at the end of my life…I look forward to embracing him and getting to know him.

In the meantime I hope to help those that are in the same situation that I was in not too long ago. Yes, my wife and I did have a child together. As a matter of fact I have THREE children! I am fortunate and I have been blessed…but I DO remember what it was like to wonder if that day would ever come. The stress and unspoken feeling of failure that I saw on my wife’s face each month after she tried to do everything right only to find out that once again, she wasn’t pregnant. She would quietly note in her journal her basal temperature and track the days of her cycle…she would have stood on her head and spit wooden nickels if she thought that it would help her to conceive. As a matter of fact, I am sure that there is some sort of correlation between standing on one’s head and propping her butt up in the air with a pillow after each baby making session that could be made!

Trips to the doctor and OBGYN were met with a list of difficulties that she would have to overcome if she was ever to get pregnant…PCOS, a tilted cervix…you name it and the doctors could find it wrong with her! But this is their job. They are trained to find problems so don’t hold it against them. What they don’t know is that the human body is an amazing thing that can overcome many obstacles in it self. I mean, how amazing is the entire process of reproduction in itself? Think about that for a while and ponder what has to happen for you and your significant other to successfully start this process and all that goes on once that process is started? Amazing!

For my wife and me, success came when we least expected it. Yes, we got lucky…or did we? Was it actually luck or the absence of the stress of trying so hard? There are many things that come into play and I don’t know if we will ever know the exact reasons why we were successful after a year of trying. It could have been the absence of stress from my wife’s daily life. It could have been the fact that we weren’t trying. It could have been a change in my wife’s eating habits over the month preceding her becoming pregnant.

The fact is that there are many options that you should consider before either giving up or turning to expensive medical options that can sometimes throw your body and your life out of whack. Diet can play a key role in fertility…as well as weight and stress. And let’s not forget the part that men play in this equation! That’s right…perhaps a pair of boxer shorts and a healthy lifestyle for him might help your success? If nothing else he might look pretty spiffy in a pair of silk boxers, don’t you think?

You have many holistic and natural options to explore before turning to IVF and modern medicine. To explore these options I suggest that you check out Lisa Olson’s book Pregnancy Miracle and see if it can help you as it has thousand of others in your same position. Click Here to go to the Official Pregnancy Miracle Homepage.

Have You Grown Hopeless and Tired of Trying to Get Pregnant?

It can be beyond heartbreaking sometimes for a couple going through infertility issues. I know because I have had friends close to me struggle with getting pregnant and also went through almost two years of trying to have a baby with my wife. I remember how everywhere I went there were happy couples with their babies. I remember that choking feeling in my throat as I held back tears after a friend would tell me that they would be expecting a baby...or an email from a coworker sent to everyone in the company announcing their own good news. I remember the unspoken fear that both my wife and I shared that we might never be able to have a child of our own.



My wife and I were fortunate in that we came across a simple solution to our infertility problem and I only hope that your journey doesn't take as long as ours. As I look back I can see clearly how lucky we were and how we had pretty much created our own problem. It seems that for us, stress was a contributing factor...not only the stress from my wife's fast paced but the stress and pressure we both were putting on ourselves to get pregnant!



You try to eat the right things. You time your "baby making time" to coincide with what the basal thermometer or ovulation predictor test says. And there is a good chance that you are addicted to home pregnancy tests and have considered buying them in bulk!



The first thing that I will suggest is that you give yourself a break and relax. The added stress of trying to get pregnant isn't helping you, especially if it is affecting you emotionally. You are not a failure and this is not God's way of punishing you for anything. As a matter of fact, I have noticed that it is those that have a difficult time getting pregnant that appreciate their children so much and wind up being stellar parents!



The second thing that I will suggest that you do is to begin thinking positive about this. My wife had been told that she would never have children or that she would have a hard time conceiving due to a tilted cervix...well, she did! BUT!...she didn't let that stop her. She also didn't let the fact that she had PCOS, fibroids and additionally endometriosis that we didn't know about! She has since had a hysterectomy but she was still able to conceive and carry our son full term...so don't give up. Don't beat yourself up and think that this will never happen and don't listen to a doctor who is going to tell you all the reasons why you may never be able to get pregnant. This is their nature...they are familiar with finding problems and have no problem with telling you why you may not be able to get pregnant.



I have personally seen many women who had been told by their doctor that they couldn't become pregnant, have multiple children. I am not just talking just about my wife. Ask around sometime and you will be surprised how many women have been told the same thing only to breeze through conceiving, carrying and delivering a healthy baby after being told that they had a "slim to none" chance by medical professionals. This is not to say that modern medicine doesn't have it's place but why not take your reproductive health into your own hands if you have been told that Invetro (IVF) is your next step? A few months of educating yourself and finding out more about natural ways to improve your chances of becoming pregnant might be a wise choice....and you actually might find out a thing or two about yourself and your body to boot!



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