My Infertility Story

Let me start by telling you up front that I am a man. You may ask yourself, “What does a man know about infertility and the heartbreak that comes every month with another negative pregnancy test?” Plenty!

I will also tell you that I AM a father, if that gives you any hope, but it wasn’t without my own heartbreak that I experience along with my wife. Yes, I will give you women credit and not say that my own experience is as painful or frustrating as yours since I will never know what it means to be a woman. Likewise, I will never know the satisfaction that comes, and hopefully will come to you some day soon, from carrying a child in your womb for nine months…feeding and living with that baby in a way that no man could possibly comprehend. But I will tell you that I have cried both tear of anger and frustration after losing a baby and also, like I said, months and months of trying to have a baby with my wife. The child that we lost was given a name and I look forward to seeing him someday at the end of my life…I look forward to embracing him and getting to know him.

In the meantime I hope to help those that are in the same situation that I was in not too long ago. Yes, my wife and I did have a child together. As a matter of fact I have THREE children! I am fortunate and I have been blessed…but I DO remember what it was like to wonder if that day would ever come. The stress and unspoken feeling of failure that I saw on my wife’s face each month after she tried to do everything right only to find out that once again, she wasn’t pregnant. She would quietly note in her journal her basal temperature and track the days of her cycle…she would have stood on her head and spit wooden nickels if she thought that it would help her to conceive. As a matter of fact, I am sure that there is some sort of correlation between standing on one’s head and propping her butt up in the air with a pillow after each baby making session that could be made!

Trips to the doctor and OBGYN were met with a list of difficulties that she would have to overcome if she was ever to get pregnant…PCOS, a tilted cervix…you name it and the doctors could find it wrong with her! But this is their job. They are trained to find problems so don’t hold it against them. What they don’t know is that the human body is an amazing thing that can overcome many obstacles in it self. I mean, how amazing is the entire process of reproduction in itself? Think about that for a while and ponder what has to happen for you and your significant other to successfully start this process and all that goes on once that process is started? Amazing!

For my wife and me, success came when we least expected it. Yes, we got lucky…or did we? Was it actually luck or the absence of the stress of trying so hard? There are many things that come into play and I don’t know if we will ever know the exact reasons why we were successful after a year of trying. It could have been the absence of stress from my wife’s daily life. It could have been the fact that we weren’t trying. It could have been a change in my wife’s eating habits over the month preceding her becoming pregnant.

The fact is that there are many options that you should consider before either giving up or turning to expensive medical options that can sometimes throw your body and your life out of whack. Diet can play a key role in fertility…as well as weight and stress. And let’s not forget the part that men play in this equation! That’s right…perhaps a pair of boxer shorts and a healthy lifestyle for him might help your success? If nothing else he might look pretty spiffy in a pair of silk boxers, don’t you think?

You have many holistic and natural options to explore before turning to IVF and modern medicine. To explore these options I suggest that you check out Lisa Olson’s book Pregnancy Miracle and see if it can help you as it has thousand of others in your same position. Click Here to go to the Official Pregnancy Miracle Homepage.